Goddess Evanescence

Race is a social construct that was created to divide & conquer- so; I’ll give you a perfect example of the insidious way it plays out in cuckolding. Cuckolding requests, for me, as a provider of color, have consistently ended in one specific scenario. It is EXTREMELY common for a young or old white male client to request that I facilitate a cuckolding role play involving “BBC,” and, in the midst of the throes of his horniness, to say the words, “filthy n**** c**ck.” Why am I bringing this up? Because I have seen it again and again. And I have stopped the role play each time it happens without hesitation. Because I know there are other providers out there-white or of color-that are allowing this behavior often enough to where that white male client feels it is okay to request a cuckolding scene and each time he does, he asks if I can describe the scene with these words. And he lets these words slip out of his mouth without any thought. Especially in fantasy role play. Specifically when a member of that race is not present. I will say this once. If you benefit or if the family members who came before you in your family line received power, control and resources from using a racial slur to control and degrade an entire group of people and still do to this day, you should NOT feel entitled to even consider letting this word slip simply because you are feeling horny. No matter where you are on the kaleidoscope of race, do not EVER feel that it is okay to enable this behavior because you want to make money. What you are profiting off of is creating a fantasy of willful ignorance. When you do this, your choice to do so perpetuates the cycle of harmful myths towards racial minorities-creating a textbook perception of an entire community. And the hatred towards that community is reinforced. This is not a problem in just the older generation. It is a deeply ingrained aspect of the white male psyche. And in the psyche of all cultures influenced by imperialism. It is a myth that has been used to stoke racial fears of sexual threat that facilitates the denigration of the entire black, male community, internationally. The next time you ask anyone to do a cuckolding scene with you, remember: Black men are NOT dirty. They are not n***** and their c***k certainly doesn’t have to be bigger than yours. That is your fear of their virility manifesting as a washed out racial cliche that we as educated bdsm providers of color are over. I do not do cuckolding sessions because this is the scenario I am asked to dream up every time. So to the BDSM providers out there, STOP enabling this behavior and these harmful tropes. There a million ways under the sun to engage in role play and this type of “play request,” is a type of “hate request.” You don’t need to entertain this type of client. If they are this comfortable perpetuating harmful cliches towards other communities, the level of respect and integrity that they will have towards you can only be the same, whether in front of or behind closed doors. Was that a mouthful for you?